Seeing as we're doing advice columns, this seems like a pretty important one ;D
Do tell the other band members you quit, either to their face, or in email, or text, or letter
Don't quit a band if they've got a bunch of shows lined up
Don't do the cancel each practice as it comes up with lamer and lamer excuses approach
Don't do the if I ignore them, don't answer the phone, email, door they'll go away approach
I've left a few bands, but I've always had the decency to tell them I'm leaving, and I've always waited until after we've completed any shows that were lined up. Unfortunately I have been in bands that have experienced all of the above Don'ts :(
Dont just be a dick and hope they'll kick you out like I usually do.
Dont ever ever loan anyone in the band anything, no cd's, dvds,'equipment, books, NOTHING.
Dont have a band fund where all the money from your past two years of gigs sits under one persons control, unless that one person is YOU..then by all means hold their cash for that recording that will never happen and keep all the money when the band splits up...that seems to be the norm and acceptable it appears.
Dont think about them, visit their website, read their facebook postings...just wash your hands and walk away for good.
Dont take it personally even if it is personal
Do try and take a break from being in a band for a few months, think about what went wrong and how you can avoid making the same mistakes again in the future...but dont think about it TOOO much.
Dont take advice from strangers on the internet
Don't leave without a clear reason.
The best quit I've ever seen was when some dude announced his departure from a band on an internet forum and adding something like "I haven't told the rest of the band yet, so I guess they'll find out when they read this, too"
Dont become a pontificating self important zen douchebag then have a public meltdown on an internet message board where your 12 'fans' hang out.
Quote from: Ayek on September 14, 2011, 02:51:53 PM
The best quit I've ever seen was when some dude announced his departure from a band on an internet forum and adding something like "I haven't told the rest of the band yet, so I guess they'll find out when they read this, too"
Hey at least they knew. One drummer in a band I was in strung us along for 3 months, 'til we gave it up.
wait, who's your drummer now??! ;D
No, this was in a band years and years ago, we did reggae tunes, not that I still don't enjoy dub, I like fucking Gzus up with reggae basslines ;)
Quote from: Chovie D on September 14, 2011, 02:54:18 PM
Dont become a pontificating self important zen douchebag then have a public meltdown on an internet message board where your 12 'fans' hang out.
;D
Quote from: Metal and Beer on September 14, 2011, 05:20:12 PM
Quote from: Chovie D on September 14, 2011, 02:54:18 PM
Dont become a pontificating self important zen douchebag then have a public meltdown on an internet message board where your 12 'fans' hang out.
;D
I won't, and I will, and if you do not understand, I cannot help you.
Quote from: Discö Rice on September 14, 2011, 05:41:19 PM
Quote from: Metal and Beer on September 14, 2011, 05:20:12 PM
Quote from: Chovie D on September 14, 2011, 02:54:18 PM
Dont become a pontificating self important zen douchebag then have a public meltdown on an internet message board where your 12 'fans' hang out.
;D
I won't, and I will, and if you do not understand, I cannot help you.
I am at peace with that..... and yet am not at peace with that. :-*
Quote from: Chovie D on September 14, 2011, 05:47:07 PM
Quote from: Discö Rice on September 14, 2011, 05:41:19 PM
Quote from: Metal and Beer on September 14, 2011, 05:20:12 PM
Quote from: Chovie D on September 14, 2011, 02:54:18 PM
Dont become a pontificating self important zen douchebag then have a public meltdown on an internet message board where your 12 'fans' hang out.
;D
I won't, and I will, and if you do not understand, I cannot help you.
I am at peace with that..... and yet am not at peace with that. :-*
Then my job is done, yet it is left undone.
Quote from: Discö Rice on September 14, 2011, 05:58:23 PM
Quote from: Chovie D on September 14, 2011, 05:47:07 PM
Quote from: Discö Rice on September 14, 2011, 05:41:19 PM
Quote from: Metal and Beer on September 14, 2011, 05:20:12 PM
Quote from: Chovie D on September 14, 2011, 02:54:18 PM
Dont become a pontificating self important zen douchebag then have a public meltdown on an internet message board where your 12 'fans' hang out.
;D
I won't, and I will, and if you do not understand, I cannot help you.
I am at peace with that..... and yet am not at peace with that. :-*
Then my job is done, yet it is left undone.
Despite quoting you...i hvae you blocked Disco Rice. I have everyone on this message board blocked. Its just me an Paul here now. So I really cant read what you just wrote and am laughing at your foolishness for replying to me. However you may walk withme thru the sands of time if you wish, because ...yadda yadda yadda purple monkey dishwasher. I love you all.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Fail. dinger was meticulous about his spelling and punctuation.
Your usual chovied-stylee typing is a poor imitation.
Quote from: RacerX on September 14, 2011, 06:30:10 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Fail. dinger was meticulous about his spelling and punctuation.
Your usual chovied-stylee typing is a poor imitation.
i have you blocked RacerX so i cannot see what you said, however what may appear to you to be spellng and typing errors are actually my new zen sanskrit dialect. I know you can understand this becasue you are a teacher..walk with me.
Better, Grasshopper. You missed capitalizing the first "I," but perhaps that is very Zen.
Then again, perhaps not. Such is the way of things.
I mispelled "because" too..it was a test...to see who is the greater fool..but its juts me and paul here now laughing and playing in my creek.
el danno tried to warn you but you wouldnt hear him.
I love you anyways
As the Brown Pyramid was built from sticks and feces (with corn added for texture), so is your love, Chovie D.
If you cannot see that, I cannot help you, but there is no way you cannot smell its pungent aroma as your fart bubbles rise in the creek waters around you.
Quote from: RacerX on September 14, 2011, 07:42:58 PM
As the Brown Pyramid was built from sticks and feces (with corn added for texture), so is your love, Chovie D.
If you cannot see that, I cannot help you, but there is no way you cannot smell its pungent aroma as your fart bubbles rise in the creek waters around you.
You remain blocked my friend so I cannot see what you posted , however, I do sense the armoma of which my spidey-zen senses tell me your blocked post speaks of. Perhaps it eminates from one of my many animals we have here in this big house with many rooms by the creek in which I play..or perhaps from the difficult brown pyramid itself..i have built many such pyramids since i began my journey.
This will be my final interview. Love Superhippie
Quote from: Chovie D on September 14, 2011, 08:19:50 PM
..or perhaps from the difficult brown pyramid itself..
The ANALITH???
Jebus I haven't laughed like that in a while. Thank you guys for that. Spot on, gentlemen.
As usual, I love the Jam Room.
Quote from: lordfinesse on September 15, 2011, 12:42:54 AM
Jebus I haven't laughed like that in a while. Thank you guys for that. Spot on, gentlemen.
No time for laughing, get on that new album, goddamn it. Where's Pissy? I need to reprimand him, too! ;D ;D ;D
Quote from: juan11 on September 15, 2011, 12:49:34 AM
As usual, I love the Jam Room.
Jam Room loves you back. Fuckin' christ I was worried about you, as gay as that sounds. I thought we were going to have a second missing friend situation, Shaft's shitty jokes didn't help, either.
heh. people ARE a trip aren't they? i think anyone who is going to court needs quickie zen lessons. gl getting a straight answer out of them.
the only sad thing was that there was probably a lot more good music to that band. BTW, those two othr guys are kick ass. i bet they resurface again quickly in another band.
....there is a song breweing from all this...still proto stardust..but it is gellin like a fel..oh no i di'nt
Thanks, man. Lost an old cat, pops came down with the Alzheimer's, work has never been so busy, blah blah blah. Instead of going full Dinger, I just rode my bike a lot, smoked hella groovy joints, stayed away from the Internet, News, and folks in general, and just kinda "reflected" on shit for a while. Longer than I had intended actually, because it was rad, in all it's fucked-upness.
Anyway, I'll save it for GD, but I've lurked and enjoyed the Jam Room for 6 years or so.
It's fantastic. Like SunnO))).
(not the crappy band)
Sorry aboutcher Pops, it's a brutal disease. I can't even watch people with it on television, fuckin' kills me.
How 'bout the Les Pauls, heh.
Thanks, bro.
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Better?
Shit. Boobs!
Right on Juan. Glad to know that you're dealing and doing ok, now back to lurking for me too.
Good to see ya Juan.
Back on topic. leave em in the dust. It's just a stupid band.
Quote from: SunnO))) on September 15, 2011, 12:49:57 AM
Quote from: lordfinesse on September 15, 2011, 12:42:54 AM
Jebus I haven't laughed like that in a while. Thank you guys for that. Spot on, gentlemen.
No time for laughing, get on that new album, goddamn it. Where's Pissy? I need to reprimand him, too! ;D ;D ;D
I pulled out all my fingernails for this only to realize that my own personal pyramid was a pile of leaves full of catshit. Had to drain my wife's life savings to keep myself buried in good weed. I must begin my journey before it surely ends. And I promise you it will. I told my yogi ( prior to the restraining order) that I was trying to reach zen. She said i shouldn't be reaching for it. I love her for saying that with such depth, as she dialed the last digit for 911.
Her journey is hers alone... For it is not un-bound to science fact. I can't see you at all.
DO give the band notice if you have decided to quit if they have gigs lined up. 6-8 weeks is a good amount of time for you to cover until they find a sub/replacement.
DON'T quit the band after a 3 hour practice while on the way to load in for that night's gig, with gigs the next 3 nights.
Quote from: Pissy on September 15, 2011, 02:49:41 PM
Quote from: SunnO))) on September 15, 2011, 12:49:57 AM
Quote from: lordfinesse on September 15, 2011, 12:42:54 AM
Jebus I haven't laughed like that in a while. Thank you guys for that. Spot on, gentlemen.
No time for laughing, get on that new album, goddamn it. Where's Pissy? I need to reprimand him, too! ;D ;D ;D
I pulled out all my fingernails for this only to realize that my own personal pyramid was a pile of leaves full of catshit. Had to drain my wife's life savings to keep myself buried in good weed. I must begin my journey before it surely ends. And I promise you it will. I told my yogi ( prior to the restraining order) that I was trying to reach zen. She said i shouldn't be reaching for it. I love her for saying that with such depth, as she dialed the last digit for 911.
Her journey is hers alone... For it is not un-bound to science fact. I can't see you at all.
My hero.
sent from Mortlock's mom's laptop...
Ive had two people in two differnt bands in the past couple years...wait until we are done with a two hour practice and THEN announce they are leaving the band. I would ask kindly that you do NOT do this, as youve now juts completely wasted two hours of our time and hauled us out to the jam spot for fucking nothing. send us an email the day before practice.
also...dont be afraid to quit or fire me via email. I fucking prefer it! Everyones like "you gotta be a man and tell em to their faces"...fuck that shit. tell me via email, its my prefered method of communication and i compose and review(but never for spelling) my thoughts before telling you to fuck off.
I'd say you got to be a man, and tell them, somehow, someway, just so they know to fucking replace you, or say fuck it, we don't need a drummer/bassist/guitarist we can use a drum machine/octaver/cardboard cutout of a flaccid penis instead.
Do things the right way
Don't do things the wrong way
Quitters never win, and winners never quit.
::)
Octavers make perfectly adequate, if not exciting, bass players.
Quote from: justJon on September 15, 2011, 11:22:56 PM
Octavers make perfectly adequate, if not exciting, bass players.
Simmer down, Ringo.
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Touche'.
heh.
BURN!!
Quote from: Hemisaurus on September 15, 2011, 04:53:44 PM
I'd say you got to be a man, and tell them, somehow, someway, just so they know to fucking replace you, or say fuck it, we don't need a drummer/bassist/guitarist we can use a drum machine/octaver/cardboard cutout of a flaccid penis instead.
I'd say you gotta be the man to beat the man
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Quote from: Lumpy on September 15, 2011, 11:42:52 PM
Quote from: justJon on September 15, 2011, 11:22:56 PM
Octavers make perfectly adequate, if not exciting, bass players.
Simmer down, Ringo.
(http://vstplanet.com/Instruments_photos/Full%20view/sr-16.jpg)
^^He uses an octave pedal on his bass to cover the guitar range, too. Lump-Dogg stands alone.
Quote from: Discö Rice on September 16, 2011, 11:57:49 AM
Quote from: Lumpy on September 15, 2011, 11:42:52 PM
Quote from: justJon on September 15, 2011, 11:22:56 PM
Octavers make perfectly adequate, if not exciting, bass players.
Simmer down, Ringo.
^^He uses an octave pedal on his bass to cover the guitar range, too. Lump-Dogg stands alone.
Perhaps it's the smell?
He smells like sweet cream and his ass tastes like a passionfruit smoothie.
Quote from: Discö Rice on September 16, 2011, 01:42:12 PM
He smells like sweet cream and his ass tastes like a passionfruit smoothie.
Look at you defending your man!
HOW SWEET!
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:D bout a year ago had a drummer sleep with the female lead singer...he tells his wife that he is in love with this singer...the female singer promptly dumps him after they sleep together...the wife divorces him and moves across the state with their kid.
drummer ends up homeless, chickless, bandless, and paying child support...
no one told me what happened for a month...and i was too disiniterested to ask.
best band breakup ever
gogo drummers go!
Drummers are insane - no exceptions. Don't let anybody tell you different.
Quote from: Discö Rice on September 16, 2011, 04:28:23 PM
Drummers are insane - no exceptions. Don't let anybody tell you different.
it would be hard to convince me otherwsie after a lifetime of having insane drummers.
actually singers are worse by far.
Drummers are insane because they get beaten down by reality. Singers have never heard of reality.
that sounds about right.
see in order to be a drummer ...you have to have parents crazy enough to buy their kid a drum set and youd have to be near insane or a masochist to do that. so right off the bat they are starting with some crazy genes.
And how. My family history is... unique.
Quote from: grimniggzy on September 16, 2011, 11:07:40 AM
I'd say you gotta be the man to beat the man
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Who is that guy, btw. I saw him in someone elses avatar (different clip, same guy) on another forum.
"Nature Boy" Rick Flair.
WOOO!!!
Quote from: Chovie D on September 16, 2011, 05:38:57 PM
that sounds about right.
see in order to be a drummer ...you have to have parents crazy enough to buy their kid a drum set and youd have to be near insane or a masochist to do that. so right off the bat they are starting with some crazy genes.
Colour me crazy then, my kid already has his
studio on the go, drums and keyboard, he's pretty good with the beatbox software on the iPad and he's got a proper keyboard with a stand and stuff in his bedroom, he likes to play the guitar and bass with me, there's a jam room attached to the house for when he's a bit older and a studio in the basement. ;)
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Mind you I suppose I have to be kind of crazy to sing in a gasmask ;D
Quote from: Discö Rice on September 16, 2011, 04:28:23 PM
Drummers are insane - no exceptions. Don't let anybody tell you different.
My shrink says I'll never be alright, but I'm getting better!
I think the problem with drummers is, they have something akin to Shaken Baby Syndrome, from all that bashing and flailing around they do.